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January 17, 2025The Silence After a Loss
If you have suffered through the loss of an animal companion, you know how deafening the silence is when they are gone. The house is painfully quiet and everything feels disjointed. Your normal routine is no longer about their care, medications, or comfort.
The silence is deafening.
When we lost Charlotte, our oldest kitty resident on Painted Rain Ranch after almost nineteen years every moment of silence was a painful reminder she was gone. She was the most vocal kitty we have ever known.
It never gets easier even with the work I do. My heart still breaks into a million pieces and that crushing feeling overcomes me. As the hours go by, I find myself in disbelief on some level as she has been a part of my life for so long, yet I find peace in the memories we made together. I know she will always be by my side.
There is nowhere else she would rather be.
The silence after the loss of a companion is difficult to endure…
Very little can ease the pain.
I have walked that path many times and felt the heaviness of grief with each step.
I know that this is a familiar journey for you too.
One step at a time.
One breath at a time.
I wrote this poem expressing my pain:
“It happened again today.
You thought about me,
and sadness filled your heart.
I want you to know that I love you more than anything.
You are my shining light.
My happiness.
My everything.
I’m here now to soften the shattered pieces of your broken heart
and to nudge you gently along the road toward healing.
Trust I am always by your side as there is nowhere else I would rather be.”
By Karen A Anderson @ All Rights Reserved
No matter how long we have our angels, a month, a year, or twenty years, it hurts deeply when that final day arrives.
I hope that you stay open to sensing your beloved companion near you no matter how long it has been since they left this Earth.
There is nowhere else they would rather be than with you.
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8 Comments
I never knew how much space my 10-pound cat, Henry, took in my life until he died. There is a huge void. His energy, his personality, his presence filled a room. I miss him so much. I find myself missing his quirky meows and chirps so much. There is so much painful silence now. I know he is with me, thanks to you. His soul lives on and someday we will be together again.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is utterly devastating. Henry must be a very special boy. I’m so glad you found me and hope my books can ease the pain.
Karen, I can’t believe I found this today. I woke up to utter silence after my dog, Dippy died suddenly. I have never cried so much in my life. It is so painful. Every moment hurts. She was always at my feet, very chatty, and never took her eyes off me. Through desperation, I found you and this post. I know this silence will lessen but right now it is overwhelming. I’m ordering your books as I had not heard of them before. Bless you for helping us.
I am so sorry for your loss. They are such a huge part of our lives. That stillness when they are gone hurts deeply. Dippy is still by your side and always will be. Thank you for ordering my books and for your kindness. I am so grateful
The silence and the empty bed are so painful. I keep looking for my cat, Bella. She was with me for 19 years. I had never thought of the day when I would wake up and it would be so silent and she would be gone. My heart is shattered. I have found comfort with your books and your videos. Please know how much you are helping me and I’m sure so many who are in the depths of grief.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is very painful to glance over to the spot they usually sleep in and there is nothing there. I’m so glad my books and podcasts are helping you on your journey. I appreciate your kindness so much
Not only have I been having to go through grief after losing my precious cats, but also tremendous GUILT!! Three years ago Goomba had urinary tract problems, they did invasive surgery & we were sure he would be coming home as he was only 13. When we would visit him at the vet’s, they said he would always mope in the corner of his cage after we left. So we decided not to stress him out & not visit. How awful is that? After a week of him being there, they called us to say he had passed during the night. Still can’t deal with our decision…. Then 7 months ago our poor girl Raisin passed from kidney disease at 18. She had been going down-hill for a while, but I always tried to take extra special care of her. She slept in bed by me for the last few months & we became incredibly close. Then my hubby thought I should get out of the house & go to a car show a couple hours away. I knew he wanted to go, so against my better judgement we left for most of the day. I came home to find her “stuck” by her front claws on the dust ruffle of the bed, deceased. She had tried to get back up on our bed but could not make it. I keep invisioning her crying for me to help her, but I was not there! She should not have died like that!! I had previously prayed over & over not to find her “in a bad way”, but it happened anyways. There is nothing anybody or any therapist can tell me to make me feel better about all this. My soul is absolutely crushed & my “life” will never be the same. I know my cats want to look down & see me happy, but it’s just not possible. I want to join them in heaven but I still have 8 cats here (that I will also have to watch perish). Sorry to sound so down
I am so sorry, Christine. There are few words to ease the pain from a loss. Guilt can certainly run deep and feel utterly devastating. Have you read my books? The only way I was able to move beyond the depths of grief was when I realized how the animals do not judge us or hold those memories in the afterlife. I carried that pain for decades and like you, felt responsible for everything that went horribly wrong. While a book cannot take away your pain, nothing can, my words and stories will prove to you over and over how important it is for you to understand their afterlife and the things that matter most. Watch my podcasts or book an afterlife session will also provide amazing messages and you can see that none of what keeps you up at night matters. I wasted ten years blaming myself and literally making myself sick. I hope you will take inspired action and discover how unnecessary that is and there is hope and healing ahead. Only you can take inspired action. Order books worldwide